Letting go

Grief, horses are so like us in their emotions. When a horse looses a friend they also loose a family member. Think about how this would effect you, would you like someone pushing you to do things? Or someone giving you time and understanding and unconditional love.When their person fights back the tears and does not grieve themselves this can cause even bigger problems. If you loose a loved one cry with your horse talk to them they hear our words. One horse I have treated lost her Mother in tragic circumstances. There had been no time for goodbyes. This caused her to spend years constantly searching. A healing and shedding of emotions and then a request for a picture of her Mother to be put in the stable. On my next visit this had been done, such a small thing but something that gave huge comfort to this mare. Horses can also blame their person for the loss, this causes a huge breakdown in their relationship. The simmering resentment, hurt, pain, sadness all boils away inside. They can become lame not quite right and hopefully a healer will be called. Then during a healing the tears can fall, the barriers can come down and horse and person can start to grieve. With this comes relaxation of the body as the stress drifts away.My horses have shown me that the grieving process can take up to a year. Then like us they do not forget but they accept life without their friend.When I help a horse through grief I tell them their special friend is still around. In the wind, stars and moon they watch over us and walk alongside us.